I woke up this morning feeling defeated. I fought battle after battle yesterday, and am just emotionally drained. Do you ever have those days? I know as single moms, and moms in general, we fight battles every day. Battles with our kids, battles at our jobs, battles with people in our lives, and even the battles that wage war inside our minds. Those can be the worst! The enemy loves to get inside our heads when we are at our weakest point. When we’re feeling strong, it’s easier to fight off those lies he feeds us, but when we’re running on empty, some days he gets further into our heads than we would like. He is the master of deception, and when he can get us to fall prey to those lies, it throws our whole world off kilter. We cannot mother, serve, work, or live successfully when we’re believing his lies.
Here are five lies he likes to plant in my head when I’m weak (there are often many more, but these five in particular seem to pop up most often):
- I’m messing up my kids
- I’m alone and unloved
- No one sees or cares how much I have on my plate each day just to keep my world (and my kids worlds’) from falling apart
- Nothing is ever going to change (hopelessness)
- If I was more like so-and-so, or if I just did “x” better, things would be different (comparison)
Friends, let me tell you (and I’m preaching to myself here too!), these are lies from the pit of hell! The Bible says that Satan (the thief), comes to steal, kill, and destroy. It also says that he’s walking around like a prowling lion, seeking who he can devour. The bad part is, he doesn’t usually show up as a big bad red devil-ish looking guy with a pitchfork and horns, because if he did, most of us would just laugh and walk away. Instead, he’s a lot more subtle. He weasels his way into our thinking when we’re not careful, and by doing that, he’s just weaseled his way into our homes and our lives. Our thoughts are, quite literally, often “ground zero” for where the enemy gains entrance into our lives.
But, we are not helpless when this happens! We can combat the enemy, even on our weakest days. The Bible states that we have the ability to “take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ” (Romans 12:21). To do this, it requires us to be aware of what we’re thinking, and actively change our course of thinking when we recognize those negative thoughts and lies. For instance, when my mind begins to tell me that I’m all alone, I need to dwell on the promises God gives me that He is always with me. (For example, Deuteronomy 31:8 says, “The Lord is the one who is going ahead of you. He will be with you. He won’t abandon you or leave you. So don’t be afraid or terrified.”). By dwelling on scriptures like that, it forces the lies of Satan to get out, because the darkness (lies) cannot exist where there is light (God’s truth). You can speak these verses out loud, or just think of them in your head, but either way, you’re filling your mind with things that are true, which offsets the lies placed there by Satan. God’s word tells us that “whatever things are true, noble, right, pure, lovely, and admirable, to think on these things” (Phil. 4:8). When we do this, God fills us with his peace, which can completely transform our hearts and our day!
I encourage you today to identify a lie that you’ve been believing. Then, find a scripture that relates to the lie you’re battling, and repeat that scripture over and over until you begin to experience the peace and calm from God that you so desperately need. I can promise you this, if you focus your thoughts on Him, and His truth, it will begin to completely transform your life, and subsequently, the lives of all those around you.
I will leave you with this promise that I cling to on a daily basis – “He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak” Isaiah 40:29. On the days when I feel like I can’t take another step, He is there to provide His strength and His power to me when I most need it. He offers that same gift to you too, just ask Him!